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Introduction / Summary (2018): Hello and welcome to our Sexuality pages. While this is not a pornographic site, it is provocative - founded upon what people search on the Internet (which is very interesting!). We then relate this to our biological and cultural evolution.
Sex is obviously important to people - and if you want to improve your sexual relationships then knowing the truth about our human evolution is the best foundation. By opening our minds to a greater diversity of behaviors, this knowledge will help you creatively cultivate healthy pleasurable moral attitudes and sexy smutty relationships (free from religious guilt & cultural myths).
Support an open honest discussion on the truth of our sexual evolution and behaviour. If you support sex positive, moral, informed sexual behaviour please share this knowledge. (These pages have a diverse collection of fascinating information relating to our human sexual evolution so people will appreciate it - see our 'nice letters' page!).
Sincerely, Karene.

"It is not enough to conquer; one must learn to seduce." (Voltaire) - "Desire is the essence of a man." (Spinoza)

Masturbation: Male and Female
Techniques & Tips for Mutual or Self Pleasure. Myths, Taboos & Stories. Research Studies, Information, Primate Behaviour

'Sophisticated persons masturbate without compunction. They do it for reasons of health, privacy, thrift and because of the remarkable perfection of invisible partners.'
(P. J. O'Rourke)
'The good thing about masturbation is that you don't have to dress up for it.' (Truman Capote)
'Don't knock masturbation. It's sex with somebody I love!' (Woody Allen, Annie Hall)


Hi there. Thanks for visiting our evolutionary philosophy of human sexuality pages.

'Masturbation' is ranked 81th of all sex search terms. Due to the prevalence of pornography on the internet, the results suggest that watching people masturbate is erotic. Though 'masturbation techniques / tips' obviously shows that people are interested to learn more information about self and mutual pleasure.

The top ten related searches for masturbation are;
masturbation (25,177), female masturbation (10,111), male masturbation (3,314), masturbation techniques (3,257), masturbation stories (2,000), masturbation office (1,952), masturbation teen (1,426), masturbation tips (1,321), male masturbation techniques (1,193), mutual masturbation (900)

We hope you find the following information interesting, useful and fun! Happy masturbating!

Etymology / Definition of Masturbation

Masturbation can be defined as deliberate self stimulation of ones genitals.The word masturbation is derived from the Greek word mezea ('penises') and the Latin verb masturbare ('to defile by hand or to disturb by hand').

Masturbation can be defined as deliberate self stimulation of ones genitals. As the etymology of the word suggests, hands are generally used to arouse the sexual organs which may result in orgasm. Men may fondle or stroke their penis with their hand or touch other erroneous zones (like the scrotum or anus). Women often rub the vulva, or gently stroke the clitoris and the minor lips (labia minora). Some women simultaneously play with the nipples of their breasts.

Instead of using their hands, both males and females may also rub their genitals against some object, such as a pillow. Some females can reach orgasm by riding a bicycle or a horse.

Masturbation commonly refers to sexual activities done alone (autoeroticism), but can be a sexual act between people. This is referred to as mutual masturbation, where one person stimulates their own genitals or their partners. Many people find the sight of their partner masturbating highly erotic.

There are many special masturbation aids on the market. The most common of these is the artificial penis, also known as a dildo.There are many special masturbation aids on the market. The most common of these is the artificial penis, also known as a dildo (from the Italian diletto - "delight"). Dildos can be made of wood, rubber, plastic or glass. Vibrators are also popular sex toys. They are like dildos, but battery powered or electric. Great for masturbation as well as partner sex play. Babeland have a great selection of sex toys (

Watching pornography, reading erotica or cultivating sexual fantasies are common aids to masturbate.

Humans are not the only animals to masturbate. Many other mammals have been known to masturbate in the wild and in captivity.

Female Masturbation Techniques

Mutual Masturbation: man touching woman.There are many different techniques women may employ to masturbate. Through experimentation, a personal preference may be found which gives that particular woman the most exquisite pleasure.
Some common techniques are:
*Inserting one or more fingers into the vagina to stroke the frontal wall of the vagina where the g-spot is located.
* Stroking the clitoris and / or massaging the breasts.
* In the bathtub or shower, using warm running water to stimulate the clitoris.
* Lying face down and straddling a pillow (or something similar) and rubbing the vulva and clitoris against it.
* Standing up, the corner of an item of furniture, or even a washing machine, can be used to stimulate the genitals.
* Some women can orgasm by crossing their legs tightly and clenching the pelvic or leg muscles, which creates pressure and enhances blood flow to the genitals.

Female Sexual Response to Masturbation & Orgasm

Female sexual response to masturbation is about the same as for males. Some women have reported orgasm 30 seconds from the start of self stimulation, while the usual time is a little less than 4 minutes. Because of a woman's ability to have multiple orgasms, she may maintain her threshold of orgasm far longer than a man.
When mutual masturbation is employed during intercourse, it may greatly enhance sexual response; some women report that they receive more intense pleasure from masturbation either by themselves or by their partner than they do from coitus.

Read More: Female Sexual Response to Masturbation: A Variety of Techniques & Multiple Orgasms

Male Masturbation Techniques

Male masturbation techniques are also influenced by a number of factors and personal preferences. Techniques may also differ between circumcised and uncircumcised males, as some techniques which may work for one can often be quite painful for the other.

The most common masturbation technique for men is to simply hold the penis with a loose fist and then to move the hand up and down the shaft until orgasm is achieved.The most common technique is to simply hold the penis with a loose fist and then to move the hand up and down the shaft until orgasm is achieved. When uncircumcised, stimulation of the penis comes from the pumping of the foreskin. This gliding motion of the foreskin reduces friction. When circumcised the stimulation is sometimes from direct contact with the hand. Many massage (with some using a personal lubricant to reduce friction) the glans, the rim thereof and the notched indent left over from the removal of the frenulum.

Another technique is to place just the index finger and thumb around the penis about halfway along the shaft and move the skin up and down. A variation on this is to place the fingers and thumb on the penis as if playing a flute, and then shuttle them back and forth.

The prostate gland is one of the organs that contributes fluid to semen. As the prostate is touch-sensitive, some directly stimulate it using a well-lubricated finger or dildo inserted through the anus into the rectum.

Male Sexual Response to Masturbation & Ejaculation

Although most males desire to ejaculate as the result of masturbation, they vary in their techniques of reaching that goal. A man may stimulate the head, corona, or shaft of his penis by placing his fingers in specific positions and stroking, rubbing, squeezing, or pinching the organ. He may roll his penis between his palms, rub it against his stomach, or rub it against inanimate objects.
The masturbatory play may be very rapid; some men have reported ejaculation within 30 seconds of start. The usual time is 2 or 3 minutes. The stroking movements may start slowly, they usually speed up as the man approaches orgasm; most men stop all movements and simply hold their penis during ejaculation.

Read More: Male Sexual Response to Masturbation: A Variety of Techniques & Ejaculation

When do we start to Masturbate? Studies of Infant, Child & Adolescent Behaviour

'In some cultures, infants have been gently masturbated by their mothers or nurses to calm them so that they can sleep. Some sexologist's have reported the activity by infants in utero. During the first year of life, there is progression in an infant's discovery of its body and its exploration, including the genitals. The fingering or simple pleasurable handling of the genitals is referred to as genital play. Infants in their first year are generally not capable of the direct, volitional, rhythmic movement that characterizes masturbation, while genital play requires little coordination and begins as early as the second half of the first year of life.
The greater autoerotic satisfaction climaxing in orgasm depends largely on rhythmic, repetitive movement. Rhythmic manipulation of the genitals involving use of the hands does not generally begin until the child is approximately 2 or 3 years old, probably because small muscle control is not well enough developed earlier.
However, in most cases, conscious and regular masturbation does not begin until adolescence. Boys are often taught how to masturbate by other boys, or they hear about it in conversations. In contrast, girls are more likely to discover masturbation alone and by accident. Some of them are introduced to it through experimentation and others read about it in books or magazines.' (Vern and Bonnie Bullough, 1994)

Read More: When do we Start to Masturbate? Sexology Studies of Infant, Child & Teen Behaviour

Teen Sexual Behaviour: Masturbation

'By age 18 virtually every adolescent male and most adolescent females have practiced masturbation. In the past several decades, there has been little change in the masturbation practices of adolescents. About 25% of heterosexual adolescent males have had mutual masturbation with another male by age 14 and about 60% of gay males report mutual masturbation by age 14 years.'

Read More: Teen Sexual Behaviour: Masturbation Statistics

Health & Relationship Benefits of Masturbation

Masturbation can be a very satisfying substitute for sexual intercourse which relieves tension, exercises the body, stimulates the imagination, and keeps the sexual capacities alive.Masturbation can be a very satisfying substitute for sexual intercourse which relieves tension, exercises the body, stimulates the imagination, and keeps the sexual capacities alive. It can help people to learn about their genitals, sexuality and pleasure.

It is held in many mental health circles that masturbation can relieve depression and lead to higher self esteem. Masturbation can also be particularly useful in relationships where one partner wants more sex than the other, in which case masturbation provides a balancing effect and thus a more harmonious relationship.

Both from the standpoint of avoiding unwanted pregnancy and that of avoiding sexually transmitted diseases, masturbation is the safest of sexual practices. There is no credible scientific or medical evidence that manual masturbation is damaging to either one's mental or physical health. In fact, studies show that men have a lower rate of prostate cancer if they ejaculate regularly.

Masturbation & Orgasm

Orgasm is the ultimate goal of masturbation. For men, masturbation generally ends with ejaculation. Females, with their potential for multiple orgasms, can masturbate for a longer period of time.

Masturbation can help both males and females to discover what really pleases them, thus offering insight into their sexuality and how to orgasm. The Shere Hite Report concluded that only 30% of women from the study orgasmed regularly from sexual intercourse (penetration). Most women (90%) orgasmed from masturbation. Of the 10% of women in this study who never orgasmed, most of them had also never masturbated. All women in the Hite Report say they were brought up with bad attitudes towards masturbation and were not encouraged to explore their bodies.

Read More: Male & Female Orgasm: Beauty, Health Benefits & Statistics

Orgasms & Sexual Arousal in Women: A Study of Cardiovascular and Endocrine Alterations

This study investigated the cardiovascular, genital, and endocrine changes in women after masturbation induced orgasm.
Sexual arousal and orgasm produce a distinct pattern of neuroendocrine alterations in women, primarily inducing a long-lasting elevation in plasma prolactin concentrations. These results concur with those observed in men.

Read More: A Study of Cardiovascular and Endocrine Alterations in Female Orgasm & Sexual Arousal

History of Masturbation: Myths, Religion & Taboos

There are depictions of male masturbation in prehistoric rock paintings around the world, though these are all entirely matters of interpretation. Male masturbation was an important image / myth of ancient Egypt.
In many religions, such as some forms of Conservative Protestantism, Catholicism, Mormonism, Judaism and Islam - masturbation is regarded as taboo, a sinful practice. In the Victorian Era, medical censure of masturbation was in line with the widespread social conservatism and opposition to open sexual behavior common at the time. Procedures such as electric shock, infibulation, restraining devices like chastity belts and straitjackets, the surgical excision of the genitals and routine circumcision was widely adopted as preventive measures.

Read More: History of Masturbation: Religion, Myths & Fear

Masturbation Insanity: Religion, Myths & Fear

'Insanity, syphilis, blindness, deafness, cancer, afflictions of the female reproductive organs, nosebleeds, heart murmurs, sterility, acne, undesirable odors of the skin, epilepsy, headaches, infantile paralysis, infantile rheumatism, pederasty, and homosexuality were only a few of the conditions thought to be caused by masturbation.'

Read More: History of Masturbation: Religion, Myths & Fear

Make Love not War: Masturbate for Peace

Using self love to end conflict. A humorous and intelligent website promoting masturbation for peace. Funny Peace Posters, Masturbation Bumper Stickers, Catchy Slogans, Pictures, Online Petitions, Stories and Masturbation Advice. "War can Wait. Masturbate!", "Cream your khakis, not Iraqis", "War is shit, rub your clit", Down with war, stroke some more", "You Can't Beat Off with Nuclear Arms", "Think globally, whack locally", "I cum in Peace".

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Question: Is Masturbation Good?

Question: Hi Karene,
It seems pretty odd to ask you this question .. but I want to know is masturbation good? I don't take any intoxicants or drinks but I am addicted to masturbation. I feel guilty about it. It happens once a fortnight or once a week. I don't know how to stop myself doing it.

Karene's Answer: Hi SSS,
Thanks for your message.
Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of exploring our sexuality. It can help us to learn about our bodies and pleasure. If you don't have a partner, masturbation plays an important role in sexual release. It is really good for your health (general well being, happiness, relaxation) to orgasm a few times a week (we are all different though - some people may need more or less).

I am sorry you feel guilty about masturbation. Why do you? Were you taught it was a bad thing to do? Does it go against your religious beliefs? There is nothing wrong about masturbation. Once a fortnight, or even once a week does not mean you are addicted. Masturbating a few times a week is very normal.

Age is another important factor. How old are you? Young men in their teens, twenties .. generally masturbate more. I think masturbating several times a day (if it was disrupting your life, had become an obsession) would constitute an addiction.

I presume you don't have a girlfriend / boyfriend. If you really want to stop masturbating, once you have a partner, you will probably masturbate less.
Hope this helps

SSS Reply: Thanks a lot for replying Karene.
I am 19 years old. When i was 13 my cousin took me to a secluded spot, took off my clothes and had sex with me. Then my brother and I did the same thing. I resolved never do it again and i never did, but I started masturbating a lot (3-6 times a week). Now I am more mature and controlled, but whenever the thought of masturbating comes I can't control myself.
I do a sex-like act with the bed and touch my anus with fingers, but I never think of any girl (or anyone) with bad feelings.
Yes, I don't have a girlfriend. Thanks for being interested in my big problem,I would appreciate if you suggest something more to help.

Karene's Reply: Hi SSS,
Thanks for your reply and sharing some of your sexual history with me.
Where are you from originally? Are you Indian? Muslim? Hindu?
Do you think it is common in your culture for men to learn about sex with other men / close friends / family members?
I imagine it is more common than people wish to admit or talk about.

It makes sense to me that the encounters with your cousin and brother encouraged your sexual energy (which needed release - therefore you turned to masturbation). This is really normal and a safe thing to do.

I hope your early sexual encounters were pleasurable for you / that you weren't forced or coerced. It does not mean you are gay either. Experimentation with diverse sexual behaviour is a way of learning.
I hope this helps you. Take care,

SSS Reply: Hi Karene,
Yes, that certainly helps. Thanks for being a good mentor. I am an Indian and Sikhism is my religion. I do not know whether its common or not, but I'd like to think it is not. I was never forced.

I was asked this question recently about penis size and premature ejaculation. I thought others might find the replies useful (from myself and my Facebook friends).

My age is 26 years. I have been masturbating for 12 years. Now my health is not good and my ejaculation time is only 30 seconds. My penis size is 4 inches. I think that with such a small size of penis and short time of ejaculation I can't satisfy a woman. Please help me and give me instruction about sex so I can satisfy a woman.

Hi Shaitu,
You can still satisfy a woman with a small penis (don't worry!). Think about how often you can ejaculate (once a day?). If you masturbate to ejaculation before you have sex, this will prolong sexual intercourse. Experiment. To satisfy a woman, the aim is for her to orgasm, which may take 5 minutes to 1 hour (all women are different!).
I hope this helps you.

The most important component of sexuality is PASSION! No matter what God gave you, you have the ability to inspire your partner with the energy you bring to your coupling. A lot of women say that men with small penises are better lovers because they *try harder*, whereas the well endowed men are often lazy in bed. .. Although one does often wonder why they *don't* make four inch dildos! lol

I was looking for someone to satisfy my thirst of understanding sexual relationship in a more knowledgeable way and I found Karene Jade on FB. I hope to get more enlightened view of sexual life.

Karene is wonderful! Very open minded and knowledgeable about sexuality. A++


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